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Lessons We Can Learn From John Edwards – On Parenting & Child-Centered Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

John Edwards is in the hot seat today because of the many poor decisions he made. His judgment, integrity and credibility are being questioned. His decisions regarding taking responsibility for a child he fathered while already married are being rebuked. His professional career is on the line.

There is much we can all learn from John Edward’s mistakes. And despite all his errors, there’s something we can take away that is important for all of us to remember: It’s never too late to get it right – when your children are at stake!

For John, that may mean full disclosure to both his wife and mistress, cleaning the slate and accepting full responsibility for all of his actions – and their consequences.

For many of us, the actions may be more subtle and less dramatic – but they’re important to attend to nevertheless.

In the heat of the divorce drama, we may have settled for a decision or two that we later regretted and still feel resentful. Or we made a child-related agreement that, in hindsight, was not in our child’s best interest – but we don’t know quite how to remedy the situation.

Perhaps we lost our tempers at an inappropriate time and watched our children painfully internalize the experience.

Maybe we referred to our ex in a rather unflattering way only to find our child get very upset and storm away in anger.

While some legal issues will only result in legal resolution, there are many post-divorce relationship decisions involving our children that we can remedy! And it’s never too late to make amends.

If you have found that your children are suffering or hurting due to a decision you made when you were more motivated by anger than by positive parenting and are now having regrets – take action.

That can mean having a heart-to-heart with your children and apologizing for behavior or statements you made that created pain in their lives. Take responsibility, own those choices, and humbly explain that you made an error and now want to make some changes.

That may translate into letting them spend more time with their other parent … no longer bad-mouthing your ex in front of the kids … inviting your ex to a holiday or school event with the children … encourage the kids to have a visit with their “other” grandparents … you get the idea.

Perhaps it means a straight-talk conversation with your ex that opens the door to better, more cooperative communication, trust and co-parenting. Or apologizing for harsh words and insults.

Yes, this can be amazingly difficult to do from an ego perspective. But when you think about how much joy it can mean to your children when they see both of their parents getting along — it’s more than worth the swallowing of your pride. Chances are your ex will swallow some too – and be receptive to working things out in a more mature manner.

If you have nothing to “own” and all the tension and mistakes rest solely on the shoulders of your ex, try approaching them in a different way, focusing exclusively on the emotional needs of the children, and reaching out a hand in peace.

There’s no guarantee this will work – and we all know some certified jerks out there of both genders – with John Edwards being a prime example! But don’t give up – ever! Times change, people can change, and change may be just what your family needs so you can create a better outcome for the children you love.

When you take the “high” road and model responsible, effective behavior, you are giving your children the gift of learning how to do that themselves. It’s a gift that will pay off for you and them many times in the years ahead. One day your children will thank you for making things “right.” They’ll acknowledge you for being such a model Mom or Dad, despite the challenges you faced. And believe me, you will be proud of the parent you worked so hard to become.

I hope John Edwards heeds this advice and immediately starts taking constructive steps  that move him in the right direction – to honor the children he presently has with his wife, and the new daughter who will grow up calling him Dad!

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Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is a relationship seminar facilitator and author of the acclaimed ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids … about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide™ to Preparing Your Children — with Love! For free articles, her blog, coaching, valuable resources on child-centered divorce or to subscribe to her free ezine, go to: www.childcentereddivorce.com.



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