http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/11/06/what-are-we-teaching-our-chidlren-of-separation-and-divorce/ Divorce Without Dishonor is an online publication emphasizing positive parenting, collaborative law strategies, and child-centered divorce practices through written articles, links, and resources that are presented by professionals for no cost to the public-at-large. Thu, 04 Mar 2010 12:07:27 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/11/06/what-are-we-teaching-our-chidlren-of-separation-and-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-900 stillhere Sun, 10 Jan 2010 21:32:42 +0000 http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/?p=272#comment-900 I never allowed the word 'hate' to be used in my house. My 10+ year old daughter doesn't watch any tv above PG rating. Due to what she has witnessed with an absent father since age 2 suddenly coming after his rights starting from his prison cell (was unaware he was a criminal) recently, my daughter is expressing extreme hatred toward him. I don't promote this at all. I have tried to seek counselling for her but 5 counselors have said they want nothing to do with this since it is during a custody case. I believe her bubble was burst finding out who she knew to be her bio father is criminal and never seeing her mother cry and the complete change in our lives has brought about this hate. I am sick of people acting as if the custodial parent must be putting this into the childs head and I am concerned for such a young person to feel extreme hatred as I don't recall having that type of feeling at a young age. I do feel I have experienced love, pain, broken heart in my past but this situation has taught me hate. Could she just be feeling my feelings or thinking she hates without knowing true hate? My daughter was a bunnys, rainbows and butterflies kind of kid and now has changed. I never allowed the word ‘hate’ to be used in my house. My 10+ year old daughter doesn’t watch any tv above PG rating. Due to what she has witnessed with an absent father since age 2 suddenly coming after his rights starting from his prison cell (was unaware he was a criminal) recently, my daughter is expressing extreme hatred toward him. I don’t promote this at all. I have tried to seek counselling for her but 5 counselors have said they want nothing to do with this since it is during a custody case. I believe her bubble was burst finding out who she knew to be her bio father is criminal and never seeing her mother cry and the complete change in our lives has brought about this hate. I am sick of people acting as if the custodial parent must be putting this into the childs head and I am concerned for such a young person to feel extreme hatred as I don’t recall having that type of feeling at a young age. I do feel I have experienced love, pain, broken heart in my past but this situation has taught me hate. Could she just be feeling my feelings or thinking she hates without knowing true hate? My daughter was a bunnys, rainbows and butterflies kind of kid and now has changed.

]]> http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/11/06/what-are-we-teaching-our-chidlren-of-separation-and-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-894 Kathy Morelli Thu, 31 Dec 2009 15:58:21 +0000 http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/?p=272#comment-894 Hello - As a professional counselor, the hardest situation seems to be a high-conflict situation where one person is trying to be reasonable yet the other person is being very very difficult, avoiding meetings, avoiding mediation... would like to see some info or research on this situation.. Hello –
As a professional counselor, the hardest situation seems to be a high-conflict situation where one person is trying to be reasonable yet the other person is being very very difficult, avoiding meetings, avoiding mediation…
would like to see some info or research on this situation..

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