Divorce Without Dishonor

It’s all the buzz on the Web Kate and Jon from the wildly popular reality TV show are separating and it appears that divorce will be around the corner. As parents of multiples they are tracking with the statistical trend that shows parents of multiples have triple the typical divorce rate.

Even the station TLC is getting in the act to help Jon and Kate Gosselin navigate the rough waters of divorce and separation:

“TLC continues to support the Gosselin family and will work closely with them to determine the best way to continue to tell their story as they navigate through this difficult time,” the network said in a statement.

These two new celebrities may want to consider putting their children first by considering divorce mediation through collaborative divorce. Although the two seem to be considering tag team house and then kid watching, anyone who has been separated and divorced themselves knows that this may create more stress on already damaged relationships with the parents. And then just wait until one of the two starts to date again… The upcoming difficulties are endless.

Putting the kids first early in separation and working with professionals to help navigate the emotional turbulence that comes with separation is something that I strongly recommend that the Gosselins seek out quickly. What started out as fun should not turn into a televised nightmare for the kids with all of America watching.

Once you have brought your energy into the present moment, you can devote your attention to the new direction your life can now take. Grounded in your new truth, you can create your new future.

Regardless of what life brings us, we have the power of free will to choose which direction to take.  Do we choose the high road, using challenges like divorce to show us that we have the strength to heal ourselves and become more of who we are meant to be?  Or do we choose the low road, and choose to be a victim of life and other people’s choices. Until we decide to embrace the gift that is inherent in any challenge, we are letting it use us, rather than the other way around. 

When we trust our inner guidance, we know that when we find something isn’t right for us, we are being redirected toward something better. Your best self is worth the hard work of the high road, because you will feel empowered to deal with anything and know it can only make you stronger.