Comments on: The Law of Forgiveness – A Spiritual Law to Help with Divorce http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/ Divorce Without Dishonor is an online publication emphasizing positive parenting, collaborative law strategies, and child-centered divorce practices through written articles, links, and resources that are presented by professionals for no cost to the public-at-large. Mon, 04 Jul 2011 03:31:15 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Dr Jason Secord http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-656 Dr Jason Secord Thu, 13 Aug 2009 10:34:31 +0000 http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/#comment-656 Hi Michael, Your article really touches the heart of the issue. As a behavioral scientist and counselor I have found with my patients that if there is no forgiveness then healing comes very slowly, if at all. In one of my books I wrote, "There are no crimes beyond forgiveness," and if children are involved it is an essential doctrine. I like your blog; please keep up the fine work. Kind Regards, Dr. Jason Secord Hi Michael,

Your article really touches the heart of the issue. As a behavioral scientist and counselor I have found with my patients that if there is no forgiveness then healing comes very slowly, if at all. In one of my books I wrote, “There are no crimes beyond forgiveness,” and if children are involved it is an essential doctrine. I like your blog; please keep up the fine work.

Kind Regards,

Dr. Jason Secord

]]> By: Mark W. Gaither http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-597 Mark W. Gaither Sat, 13 Jun 2009 21:07:30 +0000 http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/#comment-597 Hi, Michael Great series for people forced to deal with the courts. Without these spiritual principles, legal action can bring out the very worst in us. Forgiveness is a very difficult topic, mostly because the decision to grant mercy in response to an offence is frequently confused with other issues. Many people who have suffered because of another’s sin—especially habitual or repeated sin—assume their inability to move beyond their pain and their reluctance to embrace their offender’s repentance are due to an inability to forgive. I have written an article on my blog that may be helpful: “I’ve Accepted the Apology, So Why Can’t I Forgive?” http://markwgaither.wordpress.com/2009/06/08/“i’ve-accepted-the-apology-so-why-can’t-i-forgive”/ Hi, Michael

Great series for people forced to deal with the courts. Without these spiritual principles, legal action can bring out the very worst in us.

Forgiveness is a very difficult topic, mostly because the decision to grant mercy in response to an offence is frequently confused with other issues. Many people who have suffered because of another’s sin—especially habitual or repeated sin—assume their inability to move beyond their pain and their reluctance to embrace their offender’s repentance are due to an inability to forgive.

I have written an article on my blog that may be helpful: “I’ve Accepted the Apology, So Why Can’t I Forgive?”

http://markwgaither.wordpress.com/2009/06/08/“i’ve-accepted-the-apology-so-why-can’t-i-forgive”/

]]> By: Mike Russo http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-578 Mike Russo Sat, 16 May 2009 14:03:17 +0000 http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/#comment-578 Mike I do have forgiveness, true forgiveness. We actually spoke on talkshoe w/Lary and I explained at that time that my X just will not communicate with me at all about any type of mediation or modification that I believe is neccessary as the current schedule with the children is no longer appropriate since I have moved so close. IE same school district, within a few blocks. I took your advice, ordered your book and sent it to her as a gift. She refused the delivery. Now I guess I will reorder the book for myself. Am I truly left with no other option but to head back to court? I have been most reasonable, have given every chance/opportunity to be amicable but my efforts have been fruitless and have fallen on deaf ears. I don't want to but for the sake of our wonderful children I feel I must go back to court. Mike I do have forgiveness, true forgiveness. We actually spoke on talkshoe w/Lary and I explained at that time that my X just will not communicate with me at all about any type of mediation or modification that I believe is neccessary as the current schedule with the children is no longer appropriate since I have moved so close. IE same school district, within a few blocks.
I took your advice, ordered your book and sent it to her as a gift. She refused the delivery.
Now I guess I will reorder the book for myself.
Am I truly left with no other option but to head back to court? I have been most reasonable, have given every chance/opportunity to be amicable but my efforts have been fruitless and have fallen on deaf ears.
I don’t want to but for the sake of our wonderful children I feel I must go back to court.

]]> By: Dr. Eileen Borris http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-576 Dr. Eileen Borris Tue, 12 May 2009 14:58:28 +0000 http://www.divorcewithoutdishonor.com/2009/05/12/the-law-of-forgiveness-%e2%80%93-a-spiritual-law-to-help-with-divorce/#comment-576 I am so thrilled to see a lawyer talk about the importance of forgiveness. I am a psychologist who works with people having relationships difficulties especially with betrayal and infidelity which oftentimes leads to a divorce. I teach about forgiveness to these couples going through difficult times and so often forgiveness when done correctly makes the difference if couples stay together or not. The work of forgiveness can be very powerful. Dr. Borris, author of "Finding Forgiveness: A 7 Step Program for letting go of Anger and Bitterness." I am so thrilled to see a lawyer talk about the importance of forgiveness. I am a psychologist who works with people having relationships difficulties especially with betrayal and infidelity which oftentimes leads to a divorce. I teach about forgiveness to these couples going through difficult times and so often forgiveness when done correctly makes the difference if couples stay together or not. The work of forgiveness can be very powerful. Dr. Borris, author of “Finding Forgiveness: A 7 Step Program for letting go of Anger and Bitterness.”

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