The Law of Forgiveness – A Spiritual Law to Help with Divorce
Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things you can do to heal from divorce, and it may also be one of the most difficult. But forgiveness is not just a one-way, or even a one-time thing.
It may seem obvious to forgive our exes, and it’s something we may have to do several times a day until our emotions allow us to put our energy entirely into the present. What is less obvious is that we often need to forgive ourselves. We need to remember that we did the best we could with what we knew at the time. Now that we know better, we can do better. And if children are involved, we can teach them what we’ve learned.
It can be just as powerful to ask for forgiveness. In private moments in communion with our spirits, we can ask forgiveness from anyone we feel might have been hurt or disappointed by our divorce—even God, or own bodies that have been put through the wringer with the stress. We are here for giving—forgiving is one of the life lessons we all need to be our best selves.
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I am so thrilled to see a lawyer talk about the importance of forgiveness. I am a psychologist who works with people having relationships difficulties especially with betrayal and infidelity which oftentimes leads to a divorce. I teach about forgiveness to these couples going through difficult times and so often forgiveness when done correctly makes the difference if couples stay together or not. The work of forgiveness can be very powerful. Dr. Borris, author of “Finding Forgiveness: A 7 Step Program for letting go of Anger and Bitterness.”
Mike I do have forgiveness, true forgiveness. We actually spoke on talkshoe w/Lary and I explained at that time that my X just will not communicate with me at all about any type of mediation or modification that I believe is neccessary as the current schedule with the children is no longer appropriate since I have moved so close. IE same school district, within a few blocks.
I took your advice, ordered your book and sent it to her as a gift. She refused the delivery.
Now I guess I will reorder the book for myself.
Am I truly left with no other option but to head back to court? I have been most reasonable, have given every chance/opportunity to be amicable but my efforts have been fruitless and have fallen on deaf ears.
I don’t want to but for the sake of our wonderful children I feel I must go back to court.
Hi, Michael
Great series for people forced to deal with the courts. Without these spiritual principles, legal action can bring out the very worst in us.
Forgiveness is a very difficult topic, mostly because the decision to grant mercy in response to an offence is frequently confused with other issues. Many people who have suffered because of another’s sin—especially habitual or repeated sin—assume their inability to move beyond their pain and their reluctance to embrace their offender’s repentance are due to an inability to forgive.
I have written an article on my blog that may be helpful: “I’ve Accepted the Apology, So Why Can’t I Forgive?”
http://markwgaither.wordpress.com/2009/06/08/“i’ve-accepted-the-apology-so-why-can’t-i-forgive”/
Hi Michael,
Your article really touches the heart of the issue. As a behavioral scientist and counselor I have found with my patients that if there is no forgiveness then healing comes very slowly, if at all. In one of my books I wrote, “There are no crimes beyond forgiveness,” and if children are involved it is an essential doctrine. I like your blog; please keep up the fine work.
Kind Regards,
Dr. Jason Secord