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When you and your spouse decide to end your marriage, this does not just affect the two of you. It affects your family and friends as well. Sometimes you will hear people talk about who took sides in a divorce. There are bickering couples that divide friends as if they were property to be distributed.
Those closest to you are not the ones going through the divorce, but do not underestimate the effect it will have on them. For some of them you may have been an example. Others will feel your pain because they have already been through it. In fact they may in some ways relive their own divorce as they see you going through yours.
We cannot say that a collaborative divorce will ease the pain or discomfort that those in your social circle will feel when you divorce, but we can say that the spirit of cooperation will help you handle the fallout better.
If a family member or friend starts to badmouth your former spouse or gives unsolicited advice about vengeful ways you can deal with the situation, you can calmly tell them that the two of you are handling the divorce in a calm manner.
