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My new book, Stop Fighting Over the Kids, Resolving Day-to-Day Custody Conflict in Divorce Situations, will be available soon on Amazon.com. An e-book version will also be available in the near future. To receive advanced notification of the book’s availability on Amazon, email my webmaster at: webmaster@mccordweb.com.
My own acrimonious divorce and bitter child custody battle led me to search for a better, less damaging way to end a marriage. In collaborative divorce I have found a way for partners to separate their lives without destroying them. Collaborative divorce emphasizes the well-being of each member of the family, with a special emphasis on the needs of the children. It allows for creative, outside-the-box solutions to custody issues that are tailored to the individual needs of each family.
Proceedings take place outside the courtroom, usually in a lawyer’s or counselor’s office, in an atmosphere of support, problem-solving and conflict resolution. Collaborative divorce allows both parties to establish and practice effective communication habits that will allow them to parent cooperatively after divorce. Collaborative divorce recognizes and emphasizes the importance of both parents in their children’s lives and helps to structure child custody arrangements that meet the changing needs of the child, as well as the capabilities of the parents.
If your marriage is ending, I urge you and your spouse to consider collaborative divorce and stop fighting over the kids, for your sake and theirs.
I would be very interested in getting a copy of your book. If we think it is a good fit for our site we could also do a book review of it and have one of our house bloggers write about it also.
I look forward to speaking with you.
All my best,
Antoniofww
www.firstwivesworld.com
I am a strong supporter of the collaborative approach to divorce. At best, divorce is costly and stressful. If there is a way to reduce these effects, I say, “go for it”.
Unfortunately, not all divorcing parents are candidates for collaborative divorce. In fact, I have seen some cases where the collaborative approach is used as a way to gain an upper hand when the offending spouse chooses to litigate. To avoid this from happening, it’s essential that clients are screened for suitability.
Although collaborative divorce may not be appropriate for all divorcing couples, I still feel it should be offered as a first option for those who pass the screening. This will save divorcing couples considerable time, grief and expense so they can get on with life. By reducing the number of litigating divorcing couples, it will also free up the courts to deal with the really problematic cases.
I also think this is a very good approach, but also can see how it is not for every couple. Divorce is a very stressful and turbulent time in someone’s life and any possible way to ease the stress and emotional dammange left is a “go for it” as well. That is why I work for www.firstwivesworld.com. It is an online community for women navigating through the various stages of divorce and life thereafter. I have seen the results both positive and negative. So many people are out there going through the same thing trying to help one another. It is a great thing to see.
Just my two cents
Ann Marie
www.firstwivesworld.com