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20 of the Best Blogs to Read before Filing for Divorce

There is lots of information out there to help you navigate the muddy waters of separation and divorce. Here is a link to a blog article with a listing of other blogs that can help make sense of this difficult time:

http://www.nannynewsnetwork.com/blog/20-of-the-best-blogs-to-read-before-filing-for-divorce/

You’re Finally Divorced – Now What Happens to the Car?

The media is rife with affluent celebrity couples waxing lyrical about their amicable relationship with their exes… getting along after a divorce is undoubtedly a laudable achievement but when financial woes gets in the way, peace can be little more than a pipe dream. When two people sincerely want to end a relationship and begin a new life, nothing can drag them down more than debt; and the statistics speak loud and clear: divorce is the second leading cause of the excessive accumulation of debt in the USA.

One of the biggest problems in moving forward is that couples often have joint lines of credit for everything from their mortgage to credit cards, bank accounts and car loans. Once the divorce has been finalized, the property settlement / divorce decree dictates which spouse has the right to specific joint assets and who has the responsibility for payment of outstanding loans. Unfortunately, decrees and settlements are only legally binding between ex-spouses and do not affect their contractual obligations to third parties. The following list of common situations will hopefully clarify the position and responsibilities of each spouse with regards to pending car loans post-divorce:

1. Spouse A and Spouse B each have a car in their respective names:

As there are no credit issues, each spouse will be granted use of, and given responsibility for due payment, of their respective cars.

2. Spouse A and Spouse B have taken out a joint loan for a car. Spouse A is granted use of the car (because Spouse A is responsible for taking the children to school, etc.), Spouse B ceases to make payments:

This is perhaps the most harrowing (and common) car problem following a divorce.

All couples who have decided to divorce should attempt to sell the family car prior to the divorce. This is because the spouse who is awarded use of the car could face repossession of the vehicle or staggering debt if his/her ex-spouse stops making payments.

If Spouse A has not taken this precautionary initiative, and post divorce, Spouse B refuses to upkeep payments, Spouse A can take Spouse B to court to enforce the latter’s obligations. This could, of course, involve significant delay and Spouse B could continue to neglect payment duties.

The situation could grow even more complex: Spouse B could file for bankruptcy, which would discharge him of his/her duty to pay the car loan, leaving Spouse A responsible for the entirety of the payment (an impossibility for most people following a divorce).

Once again, it is vital to take a precautionary stance; during the period of separation, if you suspect your spouse may file for bankruptcy, include a ‘bankruptcy-proof clause’ in your divorce settlement, stipulating that if your spouse were to file for bankruptcy, they would still be liable to you for any debt with a third party/creditor. This option will, of course, be impossible if you and your spouse are not communicating with each other.

3. The car loan is exclusively in Spouse A’s name but Spouse B has the responsibility to pay for it and ceases to pay:

Car payments may be considered part of Spouse B’s alimony/child support responsibilities. If he/she refuses to pay, Spouse A will once again be forced to sue Spouse B to enforce payment. Alternatively, Spouse A could attempt to pay pay the entire debt (which is probably untenable following a costly divorce).

4. The car loan is in the name of both spouses. Spouse A has been granted use of the car but refuses to pay his/her share – Spouse B is worried about his/her credit rating taking a dive:

If your spouse is likely to be granted use of the car because they need a vehicle for children, business etc., make every attempt possible to refinance the car under your spouse’s name exclusively, prior to the divorce.

5. Spouse B is left without a car in the settlement and will need to buy a car but has a bad credit rating because of expenses incurred during the divorce (legal fees, division of assets, etc.):

If your credit score has been seriously affected by a divorce, fear not; there are many banks and companies which make it easier to obtain car finance with bad credit. These companies understand that although your rating may have been affected by circumstances, you may still be a good payer, and all you need to get back on your feet is a strict payment plan. Moreover, credit issues may be temporary, pending successful enforcement of payments owed to you by your ex-spouse. If you are granted a car loan, your low credit score will probably translate into higher interest rates but fortunately, the terms of your loan aren’t cast in stone; as your credit score improves, you can always re-finance your loan at a more acceptable rate. Whilst the initial picture isn’t that great, as time moves on you will eventually be able to obtain credit easier and be viewed as a more viable prospect separate from your spouse.

6. Spouse B is left without a car in the settlement and needs to buy a car but has an inexistent credit rating because he/she has never taken out a loan:

Starting from scratch is one of the biggest challenges when a marriage ends; establishing a sound credit history takes a bit of time but as long as you are a good payer, you will soon have a positive score that will stand you in good stead for bigger loans. Build up your credit by obtaining a credit card from the bank where you have your checking account and apply for a credit card from your favorite shops (shops have generally low credit limits and grant credit cards freely). To prove you know how to use credit responsibly, purchase items on credit schemes which charge no interest if payment is made within a set period.

Going about it slowly but surely is fine if you can wait a few months to buy a new car. If, on the other hand, a vehicle is a matter of urgency, your only option is to ask someone you trust to co-sign your new car loan. If they have a solid credit rating, this will reflect positively on your own.

~ Evelyn Holloway

Divorced And Living Together – What Are Your Options If You Can’t Afford To Split?

Imagine the scenario. You’ve gone to counseling, endlessly talked things through, and yet you just can’t salvage your marriage. You decide to divorce, you pack up all your worldly goods, and then you realize you’ve got nowhere to go. It’s not an uncommon scenario, and with the global recession making life harder, many couples are forced to live together despite being separated or divorced. Over in the UK, a study showed that seven percent of adults had been in this position, and with the housing market stagnant, there are bound to be many separated couples living in this difficult arrangement. What are your options if you simply can’t afford to support two households?

Get financial advice

Although you may think you can work out your budget alone, it’s important to get a professional to look things over. They can advise you on your current position, and changes you can make to secure your future in the long-term. Ideally, you should both attend an appointment to discuss your situation and see what can be done. You need a professional who really knows their stuff, and can talk you through a range of different mortgage options that may be suitable for you, or perhaps advise ways in which you can save some money for your impending divorce. Reaching a financial agreement will also make the divorce process much quicker, so it’s a good idea to keep things amicable. Make sure your adviser is a Certified Financial Planner (CFP), and ideally someone who has dealt with these kinds of cases before. Although you may find that you can’t move out right away, you’ll at least have a plan and a deadline to stick to, giving you hope for the future.

One home into two

If you have a larger property that has been on the market for a while, consider whether it could be converted into two separate homes. This could be a great option for those with young children, allowing them to easily share custody and always be close at hand. You may need legal advice if you plan to split a home into two different addresses, as laws will vary in different states. However, if you live in an area with extortionate rent, then the services of a lawyer and building contractor could pale in comparison to years of renting while the family home is on the market.You should also consider the emotional ramifications of living in side to side properties. Will you feel like you’ve not moved on? What happens if one of you wants to enter the dating scene again? This set-up will only work if things are amicable, and you are honest with the children about the situation.

Granny flats and annexes

If you’ve got the space in your yard, then a second dwelling such as a granny flat is usually an easy way to create your own space. This is certainly not a long-term solution, but it allows you to have some time away from your ex-partner while finances are sorted out. If you’re lucky enough to live somewhere with a hot climate, then a pool or summer house is usually comfortable enough for temporary accommodation. If you find yourself in this situation, then set some boundaries. You are effectively living outside the family home, so don’t feel you can come and go as you please. Make arrangements for visiting the children, don’t just drop in at any time and expect it to be OK with your ex. Most importantly, don’t get too comfortable. You may feel relieved to no longer be under the same roof, but you still need to move on at some point, so seek legal advice about your situation.

Selling off assets

If you can’t sell your home, then look at other ways you can raise some cash. You may have to get rid of things that you enjoy and worked hard to buy, but if it means freedom then it might just be worth it. Keep in mind that it’s likely you’ll both be moving to smaller properties, so you will need to downsize your possessions anyway. This can free up some cash flow for legal fees, counseling, and all those little expenses that come with starting a new life.

The process of separating or divorcing is never easy, and with the property market in a slump, you may find yourself in an awkward living situation. Don’t be afraid to seek financial or legal advice as early as possible. It means you can make a plan, and helps you to keep things amicable during this difficult time in your lives.

This post is credited to Evelyn Holloway. Thanks Evelyn !

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